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The social hall in a Petah Tikvah community center, just outside Tel Aviv, seemed more like a nightclub, what with a cool DJ, vibrating music, endless food and beverages, and spirited chatter, laughter and singing.

And on this one recent evening, no one here – adults of varying ages and each with a physical or developmental challenge – seemed wanting to be anywhere else.

“I am connected to the people here,” said Liora Bat-Am, 28, who traveled to the event from Haifa.  “People here look at and value me for who I am.”

For her and hundreds of others affiliated with Inbar, an Israeli-based non-profit working to equip the physically or developmentally challenged with tools and capacities for boundless self-confidence, and to find significant relationships in their lives – meaning partners and spouses – attending this event was a way to express a wholeness that for many was once seemingly out-of-reach.

A common narrative thread is shared among each of them – lives of accomplishment measured any which way – serving in the Israeli Defense Forces, perhaps, or earning educational degrees, or rising in their fields, or merely getting up in the morning to face the day with optimism and hope.

Yet always with that hard reality lurking that for them, some basic human aspirations and needs like love and marriage and even families of their own weren’t so likely.

“All my life I was taught to see myself as equal to everyone else,” said Hadera resident Hila Nouri, 32, who herself has physical challenges.  “I did things that everyone else did – I was in the Army and I finished a master’s degree.  But I always thought that I could not have a partner, that I could not be loved.  This is very hard to accept.”

Banishing that mindset is not easy, but is the challenge, and Inbar’s very reason for being.

“Some within our community have never had a date in their entire lives,” said Shoshi Margolin, Inbar’s Executive Director.  “They may be successful in other areas, but at a time and at an age when others are finding significant, loving relationships, they simply are not in the game.  And that is what we are changing, putting them in that game.”

The organization got its start in 2009 by Rabbi Shaul Inbar and close friend Shalomi Eldar.   Inbar, born with Cerebral palsy, often spoke of his deep loneliness, and the pair began a network for people with disabilities to meet others through social events.

Eldar, a rabbi and now a software engineer, said dozens of people across the spectrum of challenges attended that first event, in someone’s apartment, making him realize that the need among this population was deep and widespread.  And in fact, Rabbi Inbar met his future wife at one of these first events, and they were married in 2012.

“I always thought he and others like him should lower their hopes,” said Eldar, who is now Inbar’s Chairman.  “I don’t say that anymore.”

Since that first social event, the organization has grown and morphed into so much more than a mechanism for such meet-ups.

Today, Inbar is actively reaching and engaging about 250 individuals with physical and developmental issues, plus their families, with regular workshops equipping participants with social and communication skills, and building trust, self-confidence and self-esteem within the framework of a relationship.  In May, for example, one workshop entitled “Song of the Heart” explored channels of expression to relay one’s inner thoughts and needs to others, including potential mates.

“Communication is the first thing that I want to help build,” said Margolin, who herself has physical challenges and became Inbar’s executive director early last year and has driven its recent growth in reach and scope.

“This is what enables all of us to know ourselves and those we are meeting, and to know and express what is right for us and what we want and need from anyone, including a potential significant other.”

Under Margolin’s leadership and vision, and with the support of The Good People Fund, Inbar’s work is going even deeper.

Social events are being enhanced, like a recent one in which professional stylists helped to make-up participants and boost their self-regard.  And a mentoring program is being established to give participants ongoing and personalized support to complement more formalized programming and workshops.

Any observer of the Inbar experience is a witness to personal stories of change and transformation, courage, determination and hope.

Shira Lev of Yavne, 39, trains people on how to present themselves before audiences.  But what she puts forth in professional settings was not internalized until she became part of the Inbar community as an individual with physical challenges.

“For myself, I didn’t think that I deserved anything,” she said.  “I was coaching, but I didn’t know how to coach myself.  But here I have learned to communicate with myself and to love myself and to realize that I can do everything that I want.

“I used to pretend that I am normal, and now I know that I am normal.  And now I accept myself and feel like a whole person who can have everything, even love.”

By H. Glenn Rosenkrantz, for The Good People Fund

Much as it is here, Independence Day in Israel is all about barbecues, family outings and the beginning of summer.

For the past few years, Avraham Hayon and our friends at S.A.H.I., an organization which focuses on helping troubled youth through a program that teaches compassion and giving, mark Israel’s independence in a poignant way that reminds everyone of the true meaning of the celebration. While barbecues and beaches are fun, S.A.H.I. participants visit thousands of elders, handing out flowers and hugs and thanking them for their role in building the country. This year, even more groups are involved as “the public is urged to add, each in his or her own way, new meaning to the day.”

It is difficult to watch this film and not get a little teary. It reminds us of the kaleidoscope of different cultures that make up Israel, and also how much strength is gained when everyone comes together.

Yom Huledet Sameach, Israel!

In Israel today, Yom HaZichoron, the country mourns the thousands of lives lost through war and terror attacks. In a place so small, there is no one untouched by these losses. To our friend and grantee, Anita Shkedi, co-founder of the Israel National Therapeutic Riding Association, today is a day of personal pain. Please take a moment to read how one person’s loss has turned into hope for others damaged by war.

Dear Friends,

Today, Yom Hazikaron, is a day of reflection here in Israel as we remember those who have lost their lives in defense of the country. For my family and friends, Yom Hazikaron holds special meaning as we remember my son, Jonathan, who joined the Israeli Army and served his country with pride and enthusiasm. Jonathan died from traumatic brain injuries after being mortally wounded on a rescue mission in the Lebanon. He was a fighter and a very brave soldier. I gave the State of Israel my most precious possession and was left with a choice; either to remain paralyzed at home, or go back to work and cope with this loss by dedicating the rest of my life to his memory. I consider one of INTRA’s most important projects – the mental health and well-being of those who return from war — to be my life’s work, and it is my response to the devastation of Jonathan’s death. It was the best way I knew to help soldiers who return home damaged by the horrors of war. 

Since the Yom Kippur War many thousands of soldiers have arrived home from campaigns with severe injuries and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD is a severe mental health problem that causes intense anxiety, fear, helplessness, and often horror.) Sadly, since the second Intifada  and Operation Protective Edge in 2014 the numbers of soldiers with PTSD symptoms have escalated to tragic proportions. Veteran soldiers suffering from PTSD constantly re-experience the traumatic event, causing them to avoid activities of normal life. PTSD leaves many with a feeling they will always have a gun at their head. Unable to find peace and happiness, they become depressed, have difficulties falling asleep, and when they do sleep they frequently awaken after nightmares and anxiety dreams. The daily news, loud sounds and specific odors remind veterans of combat, and for some, safety is hiding under the bed covers or going no further than the end of the street. They lose contact with their families and friends, are unable to work or study and their quality of life regresses to emotional numbness and mental pain.

Many of these vulnerable veterans come to INTRA wanting to participate in the equine therapy program but we must turn them away as we can only offer places in the program when we have sufficient funding. Currently, only eight veterans benefit from our equine therapy.

 The soldiers of the IDF protect the Land of Israel and, by extension, Jews around the world.  They put their young lives on the line, and many come home damaged by the traumatic experiences they endure. Our responsibility is to make them whole again, but we can only do that with your help. Can you help us rebuild these lives so that fear and pain are no longer part of their daily life?  It costs $2500 to provide one soldier with a year of equine therapy and a chance to live again. 

Thank you,

 Anita

 Dr. Anita Shkedi, Director,  INTRA- Israel National Therapeutic Riding Association